Taking time for yourself is important. You may find yourself dragging yourself out of bed when you feel unhappy about some part of your daily life. Do you want to travel? Why aren’t you? Do you want to change your job? Go back to school? Whatever it is there are no more excuses. Instead of pushing it to the side and saying you will do it tomorrow, or next week, or next year – why not start it today? I know I felt this way for years after I turned 25. I already went to school and had a degree and a diploma in Communications and Public Relations. Was it really something I felt like I could do for the rest of my life. Maybe…when I was 21. I wasn’t certain. But we have these ideals that we must get started on our post-secondary education so quickly even if we are not 100% certain. It’s not even the fact that we don’t know for sure if we want to have this career, but do we even know ourselves at that age? I know I have changed tremendously since I was in my early 20s. I have different interest, past-times, and I’m just overall more mature (that’s not saying much). After 25, I started to get anxiety about the things I should be doing – the path I should be on. My friends are getting married, having kids, and have a start of successful career (or business for that matter). Yes, I am happy serving, I’ve always loved the restaurant industry, but when I came to my goals, was I really on the right path?
It was not until earlier this year, me being 28, that I finally decided to start going down my true path. I was having wine with a friend at his house, when he asked me what my future goals were. When I explained it to him, I realized I wasn’t even going in the right direction to reach those goals. Was I looking into a school? Was I working in a restaurant that I could relate to? Did I start a blog? The answer to this was no. All no.
A week later at work, a friend of mine Shauna, recommended me to read this book – You Are A Badass. She told me it really inspired her to follow her goals and aspirations and said it was really funny too. She sent me the audio version over Facebook, and I listened to the first chapter and laughed as I made breakfast. I know – a self help book…you don’t need to read that. This is different. She tells her story about being lost in a world where she didn’t know what she wanted to do. She’s funny and relatable and helps you to dig deep into your brain about the things you actually care about.
One lesson that really got to me – which is really strange – is the idea of an alien coming to Earth and into your body. It doesn’t know Earth well, but it knows what you like and dislike, what you enjoy, and what you are good at. So, wanting to have the best time it can on planet Earth, it decides to follow your passions because it doesn’t have anything holding it back. It knows, for example, that you always wanted to be a marine biologist. You love science, animals, and saving the oceans. Right now you are working at a clothing store. The alien quits the clothing store job, and starts to go to school because it wants to have the best time it can on Earth. The alien doesn’t have any negative thoughts holding it back. It’s not worrying about school costs, not being able to pay rent, or going back to school as a mature student. If your end goal is to be a marine biologist, then why aren’t you making the right choices to go towards that goal. Yes, it is difficult to scratch everything you are comfortable with and start fresh. But isn’t life about growing? I guarantee you will be happier if you get out of your rut and do things for yourself.
Well, that’s my rant for today. Just wanted to tell you what helped me decide to do the things I always wanted to do. If you have any doubts about anything, I just say go for it – what is there to lose. You will only gain happiness.